Jackie

It took me 30 years to realise this incident sent me on a path of being overweight. I didn’t want to be attractive to other men because of what this guy felt he could do to me.

I was in my 20s and was a dental nurse in between permanent jobs, so I went to a temping agency and they told me there was a dentist in Purley that needed some help. I went to the first session working with him and he seemed friendly enough and everything was fine. The second day when I went in, he started to be quite jokey and jovial and I didn’t really think anything of it at first. As the morning progressed and we got into the afternoon, I started to realise that there was a thing happening, he was being very flirty and I tried to cool everything down. On the third day, he was really strongly flirting with me and he asked me if I had ever kissed a dentist. I told him I wasn’t interested in kissing a dentist and that I had my own boyfriend at home. In between patients, he cornered me in the surgery and tried to force me to kiss him. I don’t know how I managed it, but I got away and went straight to the toilet and locked myself in. I was really embarrassed; looking back I wonder why was I embarrassed, but I was.

I decided that I couldn’t stay and didn’t want to go back into that surgery with that man; I felt really uncomfortable. I got my bag and told the receptionist I wasn’t going to work with him anymore. She tried to make me stay as we had patients for the rest of the day, but I left. I then had to drive home and tell my boyfriend why I was home early. He was livid and wanted to go and see the dentist but I stopped him. I rang the agency up and told them not to place young women with him.

I am always joking around and having a bit of a laugh with guys. I am the mum of three sons and it’s never been an issue with me, but it took me to being 50 to realise that was one of the main things stopping me from losing weight; I just didn’t want unwanted attention. Now I am 50 and an old woman, I don’t get this attention anyway and I am really motivated to lose the weight and get myself fit.